Ben Newman, Performance Coach, has shared the stage with Ray Lewis, Jerry Rice, and assisted the record setting 5-straight Division I National Football Champion North Dakota State Bison. In this inspiring and energetic interview, he talks about what separates the best from the rest. He says the best do two things: 1) they have a deep connection to their purpose, and 2) they have the daily discipline to reach high performance. Ben explains that the best have the Power of the Reframe and are always focused on solutions not problems. They attack the process, even though we naturally focus on results, and take adversity in real-time. They stay humble and hungry always focused on what they can control – their attitude, effort, and belief. You can find Ben on Twitter @ContinuedFight. To get your free Mental Toughness Playbook, visit freeplaybook.net and learn more about Ben Newman at bennewman.net. You can also find information about his group coaching at iwantgroupcoaching.com.
High performers know they have more in their reserve tank. They keep in mind the 40% rule which means they have up to 60 percent more to give. They embrace the suck, but don’t live there. They think and act like pros by welcoming and embracing the discomfort. They realize they need to stay the course, put their heads in the sand and stay gritty.
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Jonathan Zierdt, President and CEO of Greater Mankato Growth, talks about his journey battling kidney and prostate cancer. At first he tried to “tame” cancer, but has realized to embrace cancer he must “take what the defense gives him.” In this inspiring interview, Jonathan talks about how he stays positive and how he sees cancer as a “tremendous blessing.” His mission is to change the way we see cancer and be open to the blessings that come from cancer. To stay positive, he encourages people to: 1) find what inspires you and grab ahold of it, and 2) remember that life is not a spectator sport – we must get in the game! To connect with Jonathan, you find him on twitter @JonathanZierdt or email him at firstname.lastname@example.org.
In this interview, David Horsager, the world-leading expert on trust, talks about how a lack of trust is your biggest expense. He describes his 8-pillar framework (clarity, compassion, character, competency, commitment, connection, contribution and consistency). Developing trust takes time - there is no quick fix. The best think about trust bigger and take responsibility for developing trust. He describes his “90 day quick plan” and the importance of asking “How?” “How?” “How?” when thinking about trust. Towards the end of the interview, he describes that we cannot provide anything of long-term value without sources of strength and provide several examples in his own personal life.
You can find more about David’s work including his certifications atwww.trustedge.com or learn more about his speaking athttp://www.davidhorsager.com/. Buy his products including his best-selling books The Daily Edge and The Trust Edge here: http://www.davidhorsager.com/store/
In his book The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Nothing people do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dreams.” When we take things personally, we let criticism and negativity eat at us. We can overreact, get offended, and hold grudges. We create conflicts that can impact relationships long-term.
When you take things personally, you allow the words of others to poison you. You get further away from your goals and dreams. You cannot be a high performer – or reach your full potential – when you take things personally.
In this episode, Dr. Kamphoff provides several strategies you can do instead of taking what others do or say personally. You can reach Cindra at email@example.com or on Twitter @Mentally_Strong.